---Lyle Lovett
A
couple of summers ago I took my son Caleb backpacking in Colorado. At that time he was 16 and not
altogether sure that he wanted to spend that much time alone with his dad. But I knew that in the culture of our
family it was important that he and I have some alone time in the wild.
Almost
all of our (my) goals were not realized in terms of destinations. The snow pack was too deep to get to
the alpine lakes and the caves we wanted to explore. We were stuck in camp.
Lakes frozen over and caves filled with snow. Conversation was truncated and awkward.
I
wanted this experience to bond us together but it was torturous. We don’t share the same taste in music,
reading, current events and much of anything else. Wait that is not true; we both love the same woman: his mom.
How
do I connect with this guy?
One
evening we were sitting on a log and finishing up supper when Caleb said in a
low whisper, "Dad look!" I looked up and about 30 yards away
was a large cinnamon colored bear walking through our meadow. He looked
over at us and kept walking.
I grabbed my video camera but by the
time I got it turned on and pointed in his direction he was disappearing into
the wooded edge of the meadow. I think I got 5 seconds of him on the
camera. It was quite an adrenaline rush. We both were very pumped
and quivering with excitement.
Then
I noticed something. Before the bear came into our world, Caleb was at
the far end of the log whittling on a stick while his supper cooled.
After the bear walked by, he was sitting next to me on the same log. He
had moved some 8 feet towards me.
In fact, he sat beside me on that log
the rest of the night. He had been sulking a bit before the bear. He
was missing his girlfriend, his mother, his X-box, and his bed. After the
bear came through camp he was not sulking any more. He was fully
present. He was "there" in the wilderness.
In
the tent that night we both laughed and giggled at every snapped twig that
sounded in the darkness. Once just
when he drifted to sleep, I would rumble a low growl and grab his leg. He screamed and hollered.
We
both split the night with laughter.
Later he tried it on me and I screamed like Yogi and Boo Boo were
pulling me out of the tent. He
laughed and laughed.
As
I reflect on that time I wonder if it is possible that the Heavenly Father
allows dangers into our world to do a couple of things: One, draw us
closer to Him on the log and second, to cause us to be fully present where we
are.
Is
that why Jesus tells us to ask for our daily bread instead of our monthly bread?
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Sal Barba, Ph.D.
Focusing-Oriented Psychotherapist
Focusing Trainer